You see the picture above was how I felt a few weeks ago. It seemed like everything I was doing or trying to do wasn’t working out. The more I spoke about wanting to give up the 9 to 5 lifestyle, the more I felt like everyone I told didn’t believe in my vision. So I started to second guess myself and felt like I better keep this good old job of mine and stop complaining.
Well Negative Nancy moved in and the more I listened to her, the more I stopped believing in myself. I stopped writing, I stopped listening to podcast, I stopped watching YouTube tutorials, I stopped EVERYTHING. Then on the 18th of May, I had a car accident and could have died. You see I think what is so scary about car accidents is when you can see them happen but can’t do anything but brace yourself for the impact. That is how this accident was. I saw it coming, but I couldn’t do anything to stop it. Right in that moment, your life flashes right in front of you and you see glimpses of your past, your family, your friends, and all of your memories.
What I didn’t see was me living my life the way I want to live. I said to myself, this is not how I want my life to end and if I survive this accident, I will continue to do the work even if it meant traveling this journey alone. Thank God I survived, but I had some physical and mental healing to do. So I took a few weeks off to focus more on my health and made sure I obeyed the doctor’s orders. Once I did that, my next task was to work on my mental state.
Self care is so important! Sometimes you have to separate yourself from everyone for a period of time to allow your mind to regain focus. During this time of self-care and self-reflection, I started reading The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life, listened to Tedx Talks, and I re-read my book of notes from blogs and training’s to kick Negative Nancy out once again. This reminded me of my purpose and reignited that fire that I had when I started this journey.
I also needed to start choosing my circle of friends wisely because that plays a big part of how I tend to move forward. If I continue to be around people who don’t support my vision then their opinions may cloud my judgment. So what I started doing was following people on social media who have kissed the 9 to 5 lifestyle goodbye. I literally stalked their pages to learn more about them, read their stories, and have actually reached out to a few who responded. It feels great when you talk to like-minded individuals who share the same vision. Their words of encouragement and experience shown me that most entrepreneurs face the same challenges but to keep on pushing forward even if I feel like no one is supporting my vision.
“First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win” – Mahatma Gandhi
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